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Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 2

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In this post, I give continuation to the first part of the introduction of the topic about self-confidence. You can find the first part of the series at: Believe in yourself: <a href="http://yourchangeisnow.blogspot.com/2015/03/believe-in-yourself.html">Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 1</a> and also you can find a slightly different version of the post translated to spanish at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2013/03/confianza.html">Cree en ti mismo: Claves para desarrollar auto-confianza</a> 
 
The dangers of a poorly developed self-confidence 
 
When we don't believe in ourselves, we gradually lose control of ourselves, we abandon our healthy and productive habits, we lose our security about ourselves and we neglect our personal growth, we begin to become weak and perhaps we will devote ourselves in believing in stronger people that will always tell us what to do and how to it. We become dependent. 
 
If we continue like this, soon we will be in total despair. We will begin to feel unfairly treated by "life". We will develop a extraordinary capacity for excuse making, for putting ourselves in the place of the victim and thus begin to avoid our responsibilities. 
 
We will complain, we will feel angry and we will feed our frustration with envy towards anyone who doesn't act, think or feel as us. 
 
At this point, we will be unable to learn from our mistakes and we will be focused on what we do not have and all we need to be fully satisfied with ourselves. Laziness will invade our lifestyle and perhaps we will focus on trivial tasks: sleeping, eating, organizing and cleaning our room, watching TV, talking with our friends, etc. 
 
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In the end, our confidence will be completely destroyed. We will be unable to take risks and we will always go for the guaranteed thing, ignoring valuable opportunities because of the fear of criticism, rejection and/or failure.</blockquote>
 
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Why do I describe all of this? 
 
Well, because these are the signs you should not overlook if you lack a good level of self-confidence. Pay attention to all these things and quickly identify if your lack of self-confidence is deteriorating even more. And stop it! 
 
If you have any of these features, please do not think it is because is a normal feature in yourself. These characteristics are part of a damaged self-confidence and need to be treated properly. 
 
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Do not blame fate. Do not protect yourself under the comfortable idea that things "were not made for me".</blockquote>
 
It is very difficult to get rid of many of these strings, so the sooner you do, the easier it will be for you to regroup and take back control of your life. 
 
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Many people have the skills necessary for success, but simply lack confidence in their ability use those skills under specific conditions, for example, under pressure. Thus, in the most inappropriate time, we begin to doubt ourselves and our doubts break our concentration, cause indecision weakens our performance. 
 
Once we begin to doubt ourselves, even if we have the necessary skills, we focus on our weaknesses and pay attention to everything except what we are doing. 
 
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Often, our lack of confidence in these cases only compromises a particular skill, but this situation may overflow and reach other skills. </blockquote>
 
My message to you is: criticize and inflict yourself psychological pain through negative self-talk will have no positive effects on your confidence. The way professionals and athletes boost their confidence is through a series of mental exercises designed in a positive way. 
 
This may sound a bit simple to you, but a phrase like "I can do it!" is far more effective that saying in your mind "I suck at this. Today is not my day. I'm doing it all wrong, etc." 
 
Speak positively about yourself. 
Think positively about yourself. 
Pay attention to the positive things people say about you. 
Feel positive and work on your self esteem. 
 
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Finally, I want you to watch this video about confidence is our self-image. Meaghan Ramsey: Why thinking you're ugly is bad for you 
 
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About 10,000 people a month Google the phrase, “Am I ugly?” Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project has a feeling that many of them are young girls. In a deeply unsettling talk, she walks us through the surprising impacts of low body and image confidence—from lower grade point averages to greater risk-taking with drugs and alcohol. And then shares the keys things all of us can to disrupt this reality. 
 
 
Do you think you do not need to have a great confidence to achieve growth as a person? Would you say that trust is something that is built during the process of change or is it something we have to achieve first in order to change something in us? Would you like more information about any topic discussed here? Leave me a comment!</div>
 
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Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 2

In this post, I give continuation to the first part of the introduction of the topic about self-confidence. You can find the first part of the series at: Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-con…

Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 1

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One of the central topics of this blog will be confidence. Without it, it is impossible to begin to transform yourself into a better person, since failure and criticism will be severely hurt if you lack a robust confidence in yourself. 
 
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You can find the spanish version of this article at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2013/03/confianza.html">Cree en ti mismo: Claves para desarrollar auto-confianza</a></div>
 
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Self-confidence, succinctly defined by psychologists, is the belief that you can successfully perform a specific behavior. In short, to believe in yourself is to be sure that you will achieve something, it is to be sure about our own abilities. 
 
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"Believe in yourself" we are told frequently. However, that phrase wanders through our brain without being fully understood. We automatically assent to the sentence but we are unable to discern what it is really telling us. What does 'believe in yourself' mean and why it "seems" to be so important? 
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Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 1

One of the central topics of this blog will be confidence. Without it, it is impossible to begin to transform yourself into a better person, since failure and criticism will be severely hurt if you l…

Motivation for success: Uncomfortable vs exhaustion (Video)

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Below is Jaret working his butt off to get back in wresting shape after he was forced to take some time off due to injuries. 
 
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So you want to be successful huh? 
Well there is one thing is this world that has the ability to change our whole life in an instant. 
You know what it is, its ACTION! 
So first step, you just need to make a decision. 
 
Ask yourself this, a year from now, five years from now, what are you going to wish you did today? 
The secret to getting ahead in this world, is first getting started. 
You can't let FEAR stand in the way of your DREAMS! 
You cannot think "Oh what if this doesn't work". 
If you believe enough in the PROCESS and the END RESULT, success is going to come to you! 
It will. 
You just have to be willing to see it through to the END! 
 
But first you just have to jump in the DEEP END! 
Once something goes into motion, it stays in motion. 
 
The process itself feeds the fire, you can't be trapped by FEAR! 
 
Limits like FEARS, they are ILLUSIONS, disregard them. 
If your passionate about it and you go full throttle, there is no doubt, you're going to be good at it. 
Because what makes someone good at something? 
Its dedication, hard work and doing it with the proper direction and methodology. 
So if you plug away, you're going to be good. 
 
But what makes someone a professional at something? 
It's the concept of taking that little idea, that little decision you make and executing to take it as far as your imagination holds. 
 
Dedicating every breath in your body, to that single cause. 
Seeing the grand picture at the end of the road, TO BE THE ABSOLUTE BEST and not settling for any reason. 
 
It's not talent, it's not innate ability, it simply comes down to how hungry you are! 
How hungry are you to improve? 
How BIG is your appetite for success? 
What are you willing to do to reach your dreams? 
 
The professionals, the best at their craft, they don't care about the naysayers, they don't care about the fun they're foregoing. They don't take days off, they are 100% set in their ways of perfecting their craft! 
 
Because it's all for a much larger purpose than any semblance of immediate gratification provides. 
Reaching your goal, well that's just pure bliss! 
The higher the expectations, the larger the goal, well the feeling just magnifies! 
So what is the difference between you and them? 
 
The professionals, they are the ones who are willing to knock on the doors of complete exhaustion, every single day. 
 
Now let me define exhaustion for you...exhaustion is at that very point, where it is so damn painful that you just can't push anymore. 
That it hurts so bad, you can't even think straight. 
 
It's in reaching that point, that deep down, you know you did absolutely everything in your power. 
That there wasn't one more thing you could have done. 
 
So what's the difference between them and you? 
What are you doing at this very moment in time? 
Ask yourself this...are you moving closer towards your goals? 
Or are you moving farther away from them? 
Are you knocking on those doors of exhaustion, or are you just uncomfortable? 
 
You see, being uncomfortable is NOT exhaustion. 
Being uncomfortable is your mind quitting before your body. 
Being uncomfortable is just saying no to trying again. 
 
Achieving greatness happens when you're willing to do something that will kill you just to make you better. 
 
You see, it's easier to buy the ticket to see the game, than it is to be the one to prepare for it. 
It's easier to hang out with your friends than it is to hang with the stairs for an hour. 
It's easier to sleep in than it is to wake up and do a hundred sprints. 
It's easier to go to a party than it is to go ass to the grass in the squats. 
It's easier to watch athletes from the couch, than it is to be the one hoisting the trophy. 
 
But it's also a lot easier to look back on your life and know you gave it your all, than it is to live with 
regrets. 
 
Not living up to your potential, well that weighs on your shoulders for a lifetime. 
 
No one ever said that being successful was going to be easy. 
But I'll tell you one thing, it sure as hell is worth it! 
You are your own maker in this world and there is no such thing as failure. 
 
You just have to tell it NO! 
 
Not this time, not with me! I'm gonna try again and again and again and I'm gonna look failure straight 
in the face, and I'm gonna tell it that I'm willing to go through all the struggles to reach my dreams! 
 
Because without struggle, there is never going to be any progress. 
 
It's all in HOW BAD YOU WANT IT! 
How BIG is your appetite for SUCCESS? 
Do you just want to fight? 
Or are you out there STARVING for it? 
 
STAY EMPTY! 
STAY DRIVEN! 
STAY HUNGRY! 
 
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You can find the video with spanish subtitles and the translation of the text in spanish at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2014/01/video-motivacional-agotamiento.html">Vídeo Motivacional: Trabaja hasta el agotamiento</a> 
 
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Motivation for success: Uncomfortable vs exhaustion (Video)

Motivational Speaker: Jaret Grossman Below is Jaret working his butt off to get back in wresting shape after he was forced to take some time off due to injuries. So you want to be successful huh? We…

Your Change Is Now Music: No Hay Dolor (There's No Pain) - Zoé

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Find the spanish version of this post at</div>
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I want to share with you a new section of the blog in which I'll be posting songs from all genres and generations. It will be called "Your Change Is Now Music" and with this series I want to make you feel better everyday. </div>
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This music will change your attitude, will motivate you, will make you think profoundly or simply will make you feel more positive and peaceful.</div>
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To inaugurate this new space I decided to share one of my favorite songs. It is "No Hay Dolor" by the Mexican band "Zoé". This song makes me feel good despite my problems and difficulties and allows me to focus on the simple but important things in life. I invite you to listen and share your emotions with all readers of the blog. 
 
The song is sung in spanish, but you can learn some spanish with the translation of the song at the end of the post. 
 
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Title: No Hay Dolor 
Artist: Zoé 
Genre: <a href="http://poprockmusicsongs.blogspot.com/search/label/Space%20Rock">Space Rock</a> - <a href="http://classic-rockvideos.blogspot.com/search/label/Indie%20Rock">Indie Rock</a> 
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Your Change Is Now Music: No Hay Dolor (There's No Pain) - Zoé

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Are you in a good relationship? - Part 1

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In a previous publication I mentioned how important it was to use persuasion in our relationships. This time I will provide other tools that will allow you to develop more fulfilling relationships. 
 
Specifically, I will discuss these five things you should keep in mind for self improvement and growth to also spread to your partner and your romantic relationship: 
 
1. Learn from your partner 
2. Recognize her/his strengths 
3. Recognize her/his point of view 
4. Be interested in the most important people in the life of your partner 
5. Create opportunities for fun. 
 
For now, I will address these issues in a very general and schematic way, but I will dedicate future occasions to go deeper into each of these aspects, especially those ones perceived as more fundamental and/or complex. Your comments will enable me to identify the points that you consider the most important (and perhaps the most difficult) in relationships. 
 
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Are you in a good relationship? - Part 1

In a previous publication I mentioned how important it was to use persuasion in our relationships. This time I will provide other tools that will allow you to develop more fulfilling relationships. S…