Many people believe that life is a matter of chance. They believe that the experiences and opportunities that arise spontaneously, besides being pleasant surprises, are the best way to live and even, to grow personally. These people rely more on external events and for that reason wait for "things" to happen. People like these believe in coincidences. They think that the universe has prepared a great future for them, simply because.

According to these people, you just have to "give it some time" and be resistant to your problems in life. After all, "every cloud has a silver lining", so the best you can do is withstand the present difficulties. Sooner or later better times will come for you.

The destination that is written especially for you will find you and you will not have the complications you have now, after all, "even the longest night comes to an end". So, one day, either you want it or not, your problems will come to an end.

Simply put, the extraordinary things in life appear unexpectedly. You just have to be -one way or another- ready to make use of the good times that the destination is offering -or will offer- you, tomorrow or in a couple of years.

To all this fanciful and idealistic verbiage, I strongly oppose.

Opportunities do not come your way from one moment to another, you have to intensively build hundreds of ways so that they intersect with yours.

Many would answer me with dozens of biographical references in which a character in the story "had good luck" and because of a happy event, he or she was successful in life. Also, they would cite hundreds of cases in which a person worked hard all his life and in the end he/she did not achieve great success.

Obviously, unpredictable fortunate (and unfortunate) situations happen all the time, but I think these cases are the exception rather than the rule. I just do not think that chance, luck or fate should guide my life and my purposes (some people even believe that fate will show them what purposes they must have in their lives, which surprises me a lot).

The things you want won't come into your life "as if by magic". You are the architect of your own destiny. In your hands is your personal fulfillment and your most cherished goals.

I believe in building a physical and psychological discipline to grow as a person. I’m quite convinced that the best way to ensure your "destiny" in life is to create it. I’ve always thought that the best way to predict your future is doing everything possible to make things happen. In my opinion, we are in this world to create opportunities for ourselves, not to wait for them to come to us magically.

Also, I think you should not be too controlling to stop believing in fate and you do not have to be a person who needs to be in control of everything that happens in your life.

You can have adventures, "live in the moment" and do things spontaneously, but I assure you that these things do not ensure that your dreams come true, even though they are a key component in the life of any person.

Some others could say that you simply need to be prepared and that luck will do the rest. But, to be prepared is to actively deny luck or chance. André Maurois, a famous French novelist and essayist, said: "There are no secrets to success. In practice all theories collapse. All comes down to luck and a long patience" However, I wonder about what really means to "have a long patience" Should I just sit on my couch to watch TV and wait for the blessings of a good life to fall on me? Perhaps fate could make ​​me watch the best television shows I could have seen in my life, but it will not do better than that. Even skeptics have to agree with me that mere hope and patience does not guarantee anything.

Do not be a conformist. Do not be an idealist. Be someone more pragmatic. Do not wait for fate to call at your door when you have not even built the door!

I only see on luck, coincidence and fate an accumulation of excuses for not making plans, not to set goals in your life, not to begin to work on what you want to do. No smart person who has succeeded in life will tell you that their achievements are the result of the good will of fate. Will Smith, the famous rapper and actor, won't tell you that his fame, money and physical attractiveness are due to the happy coincidences and a series of strokes of good luck.

The myth of destiny is the perfect excuse for inaction, for you to stay right there where you are now, hoping that predestination run your life the best way possible. If you still believe in destiny, think about what this fantasy is doing to your life. Reflect on how this unfortunate idea feeds your passivity and your laziness, telling you that you can not have a better life than "something" or "someone" already established, no matter how much or how little you do, no matter the ambitions and dreams you have in your life.

"It is not in the stars to hold our destiny 
but in ourselves". 
William Shakespeare

"Every man got the right 
to decide his own destiny". 
Bob Marley

"It is in your moments of decision 
that your destiny is shaped". 
Tony Robbins

"Destiny is no matter of chance. 
It is a matter of choice. 
It is not a thing to be waited for, 
it is a thing to be achieved". 
William Jennings Bryan
"Control your own destiny 
or someone else will." 
Jack Welch

“The only person you are destined to become 
is the person you decide to be.” 
Ralph Waldo Emerson

You can read the sligtly different spanish version of this post here: El destino no existe

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