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Basic principles of persuasion - Part 2

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<a href="http://yourchangeisnow.blogspot.com/2015/07/basic-principles-of-persuasion-part-1.html">In the last post I introduced the first principle of persuasion</a>: Do not try to manipulate or your efforts will be ruined. As promised, in this post we are going to talk about one of the main principles in persuasion: to know the basic human needs.<br>
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<b>2. To persuade, consider the two most basic human needs: to avoid pain and seek pleasure.</b></h2>
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">¿Hablas español? Encuentra la versión original de la publicación en: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2014/07/principios-basicos-de-la-persuasion.html">Principios básicos de la persuasión: Parte 1</a></span> </div>
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To be persuasive is to know what people want. If you do 
not speak to their emotions and most basic and fundamental thoughts and 
needs, it will be very difficult for you to persuade anyone.</td></tr>
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Basic principles of persuasion - Part 2

In the last post I introduced the first principle of persuasion: Do not try to manipulate or your efforts will be ruined. As promised, in this post we are going to talk about one of the main principl…

Basic principles of persuasion: Part 1

In this new publication about persuasion, I'll set the foundations of persuasion so you can become a person capable of applying various methods of persuasion effectively. This time, I am going to men…

Why persuasion is the key to sucess?

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Mastering the power of persuasion requires the expenditure of significant resources. Persuasion requires sacrifice. You'll have to invest resources and suppress your most immediate answers. You'll have to be patient, but it'll be worth it. In this publication, you will learn why it is so hard to persuade, but also, why it is so useful.<br>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">"Character may almost be called <br>
the most effective means of persuasion".<br>
Aristotle</td></tr>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">¿Hablas español? Encuentra la versión original de la publicación en: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2014/05/aplica-la-persuasion-en-tu-vida-diaria.html">Aplica la persuasión en tu vida diaria</a></span></div>
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Why persuasion is the key to sucess?

Mastering the power of persuasion requires the expenditure of significant resources. Persuasion requires sacrifice. You'll have to invest resources and suppress your most immediate answers. You'll ha…

Motivational Movies: The Croods - Part 2

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In the first part of the series of two articles about the movie "The Croods", I wrote about the idea of fear and <a href="http://yourchangeisnow.blogspot.com/2014/11/motivational-movies-croods.html" rel="nofollow">the representation of a cave in our daily lives</a>. This time, I want to develop two ideas about the concept of risk.</div>
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<i>1. The way risk can motivate us like nothing else in life. </i><br />
<i>2. To risk something is to win/learn something.</i><br />
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<i><span style="font-size: xx-small;">¿Hablas español? Encuentra la versión original de la publicación en:<b> <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2013/04/Los-Croods.html" rel="nofollow">Inspiración de película: Los Croods</a>  </b></span></i></div>
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<i>And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud </i></div>
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<i>was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.</i></div>
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<u>Anais Nin</u></div>
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<i>Only those who will risk going too far</i></div>
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<i>can possibly find out how far one can go.</i></div>
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<u>T. S. Eliot</u></div>
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<i>The biggest risk is not taking any risk... </i></div>
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<i>In a world that is changing really quickly, </i></div>
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<i>the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail </i></div>
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<i>is not taking risks.</i></div>
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<u>Mark Zuckerberg</u></div>
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<b>The value of risk: Case study of Roger Federer</b><br />
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People who took big risks also won big. Unlike most, they did not believe that thinking big was going to led them to great frustrations, they were thinking about big profits.<br />
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The famous Swiss tennis player Roger Federer left school at age 16 to devote himself entirely to his passion, the sport he loved. If perhaps we knew someone who did the same as Roger Federer, we would advise him to do both things at the same time, we would tell to continue studying while attending their training; and certainly we would reject his decision to drop out, because<b> we tend to believe that the way of the majority is the same way we must follow: we must study to get a good job and THEN we will have what we have always wanted.</b> However, it is not the case of many current billionaires, <a href="http://factually.gizmodo.com/one-in-four-self-made-american-billionaires-dropped-out-1656784411">as highlighted in this article</a>.<br />
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We tend to believe that we need to keep everything stable: finances, studies, relationships and our personal lives. And maybe this quest for stability assures us some comfort in our lives, but it will not give us the satisfaction of fulfilling our dreams and do/be what we've always wanted.<br />
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If your dreams do not scare you, if you do not seem them as nearly impossible, you are simply dreaming of trifles and therefore you will never live the best life you can.<br />
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj3pmXB9ivdSliMJvPAaurjDrdTH5ebk_BvZIWN1yZ2nhXAg_u_lsGGJaILcz2z4vY3imbwV0mTk4W_eZ7BLBZja9-rYlojcGBisUokXXE6pawc2LZZX7RsIDpFf5KKkM4NU7imkfvjGq4/s1600/Guy-The-Croods.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Lessons on movies" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj3pmXB9ivdSliMJvPAaurjDrdTH5ebk_BvZIWN1yZ2nhXAg_u_lsGGJaILcz2z4vY3imbwV0mTk4W_eZ7BLBZja9-rYlojcGBisUokXXE6pawc2LZZX7RsIDpFf5KKkM4NU7imkfvjGq4/s400/Guy-The-Croods.jpg" title="Life lessons from the Croods" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">The greatest opportunities of our lives are hidden in places that can only be discovered if we risk a little.</td></tr>
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A radical decision like Federer's is often frightening to most, but it was not for him. And at this point is that the great personalities differ from other mortals. Roger abandoned his studies -something that most people consider essential for success, or at least, education is thought to be one of the first fundamental steps to prevent failure- and saw himself in a very profitable situation for him: <b>he had nothing to lose, so he could just go ahead without looking back.</b><br />
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From the moment he left his studies, he created an unlimited strength and a powerful motivation.<b> He was going to devote all his energies, all his thoughts and all his efforts to something in which he firmly believed</b>. He had a great self-confidence since the beginning and that allowed him to find the drive needed to pursue his dream with his whole being. Now, instead of being a poor, unsuccessful amateur athlete and uneducated, he is one of the best tennis players in history, or certainly, the best. In retrospect, the decision only accelerated the persecution of his true dreams.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">We will never reach the best things in life if we always cling to things
 that are fixed and secure. We have to take risks and look for a better 
future.</td></tr>
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<i>If you are not willing to risk the unusual, </i></div>
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<i>you will have to settle for the ordinary.</i></div>
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<u>Jim Rohn</u></div>
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<b>Risk as an opportunity to learn</b><br />
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Another advantage I'd rescue of risky situations and that is exemplified in "The Croods" has to do with the demands of a complicated situation. Throughout the film, the family faces tough decisions and problems that can only be overcome with intelligence and wit, usually represented in Guy's smart ideas, an adventurous and courageous boy, accustomed to the challenges of the environment. Guy is more evolved than the family of the cave, so <b>he is able to overcome the dangers thanks to his brainpower and creativity, something the cavemen Croods lack.</b> However, it is precisely because of the dangers he had to face (instead of passively avoid) that he is the smartest <i>guy</i> in the movie.<br />
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When we are facing a very difficult situation, that situation compel us to make use of our greatest acuity, imagination and/or energy to overcome the obstacles in front of us. <b>If we always avoided the hardest moments of our lives, we would never have the opportunity to make the best of ourselves.</b> If you're in a cave, you do not need many ideas to survive.<br />
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Likewise, if you're in a situation that you are used to, progressively you will lose the sense of novelty and challenge, and eventually, you will begin to push yourself less, until you reach a point where you do not solve problems, you do not create anything new, you do not develop your talents and abilities. In this sense, when we take risks actually we are not risking the lose of something, <b>we are risking the gain of something.</b> We always gain something, even though our failure of the main goal. We gain experience, ideas and maturity. <b>The risk is learning, it is not loss.</b><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Avoid repentance and commit yourself to not miss opportunities that come your way for fear of risking. </td></tr>
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<b>I would like you to think about the great opportunities that you let pass because of your belief in staying safe and warm in your cave, because you did not risk losing something to win a little</b>. Maybe you let pass a relationship, a job with better payment, a chance to study, etc. However, you don't need to go that far, perhaps in a class at your college or university you risked not to give your opinion, and bacause you stayed silent no one was able to recognize you as a witty or intelligent person. <br />
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So please now think about those times when you risked something. Maybe while playing soccer with friends you risked to make a spectacular play that aroused the admiration of all spectators or maybe at work you had an opinion that was very good received by your bosses. Why not risk more often, then?<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Remember that it is forbidden to give up, breathe deeply and keep going!</td></tr>
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<i>Fear stifles our thinking and actions. </i></div>
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<i>It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. </i></div>
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<i>I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. </i></div>
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<i>Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, </i></div>
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<i>and the downward spiral begins.</i></div>
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<u>Charles Stanley</u></div>
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In what moments did you lost great opportunities because of your lack of courage?<br />
Would you like to share an experience where you took risks that led you to a good result?<br />
Have you watched "The Croods" and do want to share your own opinions about the film?<br />
Your comments will be welcomed.</div>
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Motivational Movies: The Croods - Part 2

In the first part of the series of two articles about the movie "The Croods", I wrote about the idea of fear and the representation of a cave in our daily lives. This time, I want to develop two idea…

Motivational Movies: The Croods - Part 1

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The Croods is a movie about a prehistoric family that uses a strategy of risk avoidance to survive as long as possible. Basically, the family is limited to hunt and hide in a cave. However, <b>one day the cave is destroyed and the family is forced to travel and face many dangers in order to preserve the life of its members.</b><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">In this mindset, for example, you will not want to take a risk like changing a feature of your personality because <i>you fear failure and you don't want to wear yourself down.</i></td></tr>
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Putting aside the fantasy and the entertaining comedy of this movie, I think the lessons it offers are important ones. "The Croods" at the beginning of the film, exemplify a type of belief very harmful for us. This belief is the idea that <span style="color: red;">once you have reached a comfortable position in your life, the best you can do from there is to preserve that situation, avoiding risks and dangerous decisions at all costs.</span><br />
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For example, once you've defined your personality and your interests, this belief dictates that you must try to keep the benefits and ignore your weaknesses. Similarly, if you have a good job or if you are happy with your study conditions and current housing, you focus on the comforts and the advantages of those situations. This way, little by little, <b>you start to settle and the fear of losing all that stuff becomes very powerful, so you won't try anything new, and you will start to avoid opportunities that involve risks.</b><br />
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In other words, <b>you find a comfortable cave and you cling to it</b>. <b>Your expectations and your goals begin to slowly rotate around that comfort zone: your cave</b>. </blockquote>
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In a situation like this, you start to talk to yourself in a conformist way. You say to yourself that after all, your personality is a very good one and it's OK to have some deficiencies. Of course, nobody is perfect, it is fine to have some flaws. Besides, you are happy with who you are, and the people who are around are also comfortable with your personality.<br />
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In this thinking process, you are self-limiting because <b>it is easier for you to save your efforts</b> in trying to remove a defect (and maybe make a fool in front of others). <b>It is easier because you won't suffer the emotional effects of failure and you won't lose your time and energy.</b> Anyway, "others have to accept the way you are".<br />
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Even when you want something new in your life, the fear of failure limits you. <b>You need to be sure that things will go just right.</b> As if you were Tarzan in the jungle: You have to grab a vine before releasing the other. You have to always be in an area without hazard, without risk. That way you think you can move slowly but safely. <br />
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Psychology has found that when we take risks our fear of losing is stronger than our expectation of obtaining some profit. This means that we prefer not to lose the little we have instead of taking unnecessary risks and losing even what we do not have. This is the case of "The Croods". To them, fear is good because it makes them to always step on firm ground, and to <b>always limit their goals to only those things that involve minimal risk. </b><br />
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Fear, in these cases, is a life strategy. It drives our decisions and the way we live. Ultimately, as the Croods thought at the beginning of the movie, <u>it costs a lot to take risks. It costs a lot to face difficult chasms. </u>We're fine as we are. The only thing that would force us to move back and find new things is when our cave completely destroyed, as in the film, otherwise we will do everything in our power to continue in the same path. </blockquote>
We believe that risk-takers are less rational, who can not properly evaluate the pros and cons of a decision that involves uncertainty and possible irreparable damage. We even may think that these people are disorganized, that they do not know what they want, that they are not able to enjoy what they already have because they always want more and therefore <b>lose great opportunities and benefits.</b><br />
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Well, it may be so in the case of some people, but we are forgetting that these people also have some virtues that should learn, like <b>courage and bravery, which involves the inevitable act of launching ourselves into the unknown.</b><br />
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You can read a slighlity different version of this post, in spanish, here:<b> <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2013/04/Los-Croods.html" rel="nofollow">Inspiración de película: Los Croods</a> </b></div>
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Motivational Movies: The Croods - Part 1

The Croods is a movie about a prehistoric family that uses a strategy of risk avoidance to survive as long as possible. Basically, the family is limited to hunt and hide in a cave. However, one day t…

Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 2

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In this post, I give continuation to the first part of the introduction of the topic about self-confidence. You can find the first part of the series at: Believe in yourself: <a href="http://yourchangeisnow.blogspot.com/2015/03/believe-in-yourself.html">Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 1</a> and also you can find a slightly different version of the post translated to spanish at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2013/03/confianza.html">Cree en ti mismo: Claves para desarrollar auto-confianza</a> <br />
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<b>The dangers of a poorly developed self-confidence</b><br />
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When we don't believe in ourselves, <b>we gradually lose control of ourselves, we abandon our healthy and productive habits, we lose our security about ourselves and we neglect our personal growth</b>, we begin to become weak and perhaps we will devote ourselves in believing in stronger people that will always tell us what to do and how to it. We become dependent.<br />
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If we continue like this, soon we will be in total despair. <i>We will begin to feel unfairly treated by "life". We will develop a extraordinary capacity for excuse making, for putting ourselves in the place of the victim and thus begin to avoid our responsibilities</i>.<br />
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We will complain, we will feel angry and we will feed our frustration with envy towards anyone who doesn't act, think or feel as us.<br />
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At this point, we will be unable to learn from our mistakes and we will be focused on what we do not have and all we need to be fully satisfied with ourselves. Laziness will invade our lifestyle and perhaps we will focus on trivial tasks: sleeping, eating, organizing and cleaning our room, watching TV, talking with our friends, etc.<br />
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In the end, our confidence will be completely destroyed. We will be unable to take risks and we will always go for the guaranteed thing, ignoring valuable opportunities because of the fear of criticism, rejection and/or failure.</blockquote>
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Why do I describe all of this?<br />
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Well, because <b>these are the signs you should not overlook if you lack a good level of self-confidence</b>. Pay attention to all these things and quickly identify if your lack of self-confidence is deteriorating even more. And stop it!<br />
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If you have any of these features, <b>please do not think it is because is a normal feature in yourself. These characteristics are part of a damaged self-confidence and need to be treated properly.</b><br />
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Do not blame fate. Do not protect yourself under the comfortable idea that things "were not made for me".</blockquote>
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It is very difficult to get rid of many of these strings, so the sooner you do, the easier it will be for you to regroup and take back control of your life.<br />
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Many people have the skills necessary for success, but simply lack confidence in their ability use those skills under specific conditions, for example, under pressure. Thus, <b>in the most inappropriate time, we begin to doubt ourselves and our doubts break our concentration, cause indecision weakens our performance.</b><br />
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Once we begin to doubt ourselves, even if we have the necessary skills, we focus on our weaknesses and pay attention to everything except what we are doing.<br />
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Often, our lack of confidence in these cases only compromises a particular skill, but this situation may overflow and reach other skills. </blockquote>
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My message to you is: criticize and inflict yourself psychological pain through negative self-talk will have no positive effects on your confidence. The way professionals and athletes boost their confidence is through a series of mental exercises designed in a positive way.<br />
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This may sound a bit simple to you, but <b>a phrase like "I can do it!" is far more effective that saying in your mind "I suck at this. Today is not my day. I'm doing it all wrong, etc."</b><br />
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<i>Speak positively about yourself. </i><br />
<i>Think positively about yourself. </i><br />
<i>Pay attention to the positive things people say about you. </i><br />
<i>Feel positive and work on your self esteem.</i><br />
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Finally, I want you to watch this video about confidence is our self-image. <b>Meaghan Ramsey: Why thinking you're ugly is bad for you </b><br />
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About 10,000 people a month Google the phrase, “Am I ugly?” Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project has a feeling that many of them are young girls. In a deeply unsettling talk, she walks us through the surprising impacts of low body and image confidence—from lower grade point averages to greater risk-taking with drugs and alcohol. And then shares the keys things all of us can to disrupt this reality.<br />
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<i>Do you think you do not need to have a great confidence to achieve growth as a person? Would you say that trust is something that is built during the process of change or is it something we have to achieve first in order to change something in us? Would you like more information about any topic discussed here? Leave me a comment!</i></div>
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Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 2

In this post, I give continuation to the first part of the introduction of the topic about self-confidence. You can find the first part of the series at: Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-con…

Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 1

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One of the central topics of this blog will be confidence. Without it, it is impossible to begin to transform yourself into a better person, since failure and criticism will be severely hurt if you lack a robust confidence in yourself.<br>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">You can find the spanish version of this article at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2013/03/confianza.html">Cree en ti mismo: Claves para desarrollar auto-confianza</a></span></div>
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Self-confidence, succinctly defined by psychologists, <b>is the belief that you can successfully perform a specific behavior</b>. In short, to believe in yourself is to be sure that you will achieve something, it is to be sure about our own abilities.<br>
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"Believe in yourself" we are told frequently. However, that phrase wanders through our brain without being fully understood. We automatically assent to the sentence but we are unable to discern what it is really telling us. What does 'believe in yourself' mean and why it "seems" to be so important?<br>
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Believe in yourself: Keys to develop self-confidence - Part 1

One of the central topics of this blog will be confidence. Without it, it is impossible to begin to transform yourself into a better person, since failure and criticism will be severely hurt if you l…

Motivation for success: Uncomfortable vs exhaustion (Video)

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Below is Jaret working his butt off to get back in wresting shape after he was forced to take some time off due to injuries. <br />
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So you want to be successful huh?<br />
Well there is one thing is this world that has the ability to change our whole life in an instant.<br />
You know what it is, <b>its ACTION!</b><br />
So first step, you just need to make a decision.<br />
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<b>Ask yourself this, a year from now, five years from now, what are you going to wish you did today?</b><br />
The secret to getting ahead in this world, is first getting started.<br />
You can't let FEAR stand in the way of your DREAMS!<br />
You cannot think "Oh what if this doesn't work".<br />
If you believe enough in the PROCESS and the END RESULT, success is going to come to you!<br />
It will.<br />
You just have to be willing to see it through to the END!<br />
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But first you just have to jump in the DEEP END!<br />
Once something goes into motion, it stays in motion.<br />
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<b>The process itself feeds the fire</b>, you can't be trapped by FEAR!<br />
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Limits like FEARS, they are ILLUSIONS, disregard them.<br />
If your passionate about it and you go full throttle, there is no doubt, you're going to be good at it.<br />
Because <b>what makes someone good at something?<br />
Its dedication, hard work and doing it with the proper direction and methodology.</b><br />
So if you plug away, you're going to be good.<br />
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<b>But what makes someone a professional at something?</b><br />
It's the concept of taking that little idea, that little decision you make and executing to take it as far as your imagination holds.<br />
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<b>Dedicating every breath in your body, to that single cause.</b><br />
Seeing the grand picture at the end of the road, TO BE THE ABSOLUTE BEST and not settling for any reason.<br />
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<i>It's not talent, it's not innate ability, it simply comes down to how hungry you are!<br />
How hungry are you to improve?<br />
How BIG is your appetite for success?<br />
What are you willing to do to reach your dreams?</i><br />
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<b>The professionals, the best at their craft, they don't care about the naysayers, they don't care about the fun they're foregoing. They don't take days off, they are 100% set in their ways of perfecting their craft!</b><br />
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Because it's all for a much larger purpose than any semblance of immediate gratification provides.<br />
Reaching your goal, well that's just pure bliss!<br />
The higher the expectations, the larger the goal, well the feeling just magnifies!<br />
So what is the difference between you and them?<br />
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<b>The professionals, they are the ones who are willing to knock on the doors of complete exhaustion, every single day.</b><br />
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Now let me define exhaustion for you...exhaustion is at that very point, where it is so damn painful that you just can't push anymore.<br />
That it hurts so bad, you can't even think straight.<br />
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It's in reaching that point, that deep down, <b>you know you did absolutely everything in your power.<br />
That there wasn't one more thing you could have done.</b><br />
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So what's the difference between them and you?<br />
What are you doing at this very moment in time?<br />
Ask yourself this...are you moving closer towards your goals?<br />
Or are you moving farther away from them?<br />
Are you knocking on those doors of exhaustion, or are you just uncomfortable?<br />
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<i>You see, being uncomfortable is NOT exhaustion.<br />
Being uncomfortable is your mind quitting before your body.<br />
Being uncomfortable is just saying no to trying again.</i><br />
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Achieving greatness happens when you're willing to do something that will kill you just to make you better.<br />
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You see, it's easier to buy the ticket to see the game, than it is to be the one to prepare for it.<br />
It's easier to hang out with your friends than it is to hang with the stairs for an hour.<br />
It's easier to sleep in than it is to wake up and do a hundred sprints.<br />
It's easier to go to a party than it is to go ass to the grass in the squats.<br />
It's easier to watch athletes from the couch, than it is to be the one hoisting the trophy.<br />
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But <b>it's also a lot easier to look back on your life and know you gave it your all, than it is to live with<br />
regrets.</b><br />
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<b>Not living up to your potential, well that weighs on your shoulders for a lifetime.</b><br />
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No one ever said that being successful was going to be easy.<br />
But I'll tell you one thing, it sure as hell is worth it!<br />
You are your own maker in this world and there is no such thing as failure.<br />
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You just have to tell it NO!<br />
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Not this time, not with me! I'm gonna try again and again and again and I'm gonna look failure straight<br />
in the face, and I'm gonna tell it that I'm willing to go through all the struggles to reach my dreams!<br />
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Because without struggle, there is never going to be any progress.<br />
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It's all in HOW BAD YOU WANT IT!<br />
How BIG is your appetite for SUCCESS?<br />
Do you just want to fight?<br />
Or are you out there STARVING for it?<br />
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STAY EMPTY!<br />
STAY DRIVEN!<br />
STAY HUNGRY!<br />
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You can find the video with spanish subtitles and the translation of the text in spanish at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2014/01/video-motivacional-agotamiento.html">Vídeo Motivacional: Trabaja hasta el agotamiento</a><br />
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Motivation for success: Uncomfortable vs exhaustion (Video)

Motivational Speaker: Jaret Grossman Below is Jaret working his butt off to get back in wresting shape after he was forced to take some time off due to injuries. So you want to be successful huh? We…

Your Change Is Now Music: No Hay Dolor (There's No Pain) - Zoé

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<span style="font-size: x-small;">Find the spanish version of this post at</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2014/11/musica-para-sentirse-bien-no-hay-dolor.html">Música para sentirse bien: No hay dolor - Zoé</a></span></div>
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I want to share with you a new section of the blog in which I'll be posting songs from all genres and generations. It will be called "Your Change Is Now Music" and with this series I want to make you feel better everyday. </div>
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This music will change your attitude, will motivate you, will make you think profoundly or simply will make you feel more positive and peaceful.</div>
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To inaugurate this new space I decided to share one of my favorite songs. It is "No Hay Dolor" by the Mexican band "Zoé". <b>This song makes me feel good despite my problems and difficulties and allows me to focus on the simple but important things in life</b>. I invite you to listen and share your emotions with all readers of the blog.<br>
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The song is sung in spanish, but you can learn some spanish with the translation of the song at the end of the post.<br>
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Recommend me inspiring songs!</div>
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Title: No Hay Dolor<br>
Artist: Zoé<br>
Genre: <a href="http://poprockmusicsongs.blogspot.com/search/label/Space%20Rock">Space Rock</a> - <a href="http://classic-rockvideos.blogspot.com/search/label/Indie%20Rock">Indie Rock</a><br>
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Album: <b>Reptilectric</b><br>
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Year: 2008<br>
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Your Change Is Now Music: No Hay Dolor (There's No Pain) - Zoé

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Are you in a good relationship? - Part 1

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In a previous publication I mentioned how important it was to use persuasion in our relationships. This time I will provide other <b>tools that will allow you to develop more fulfilling relationships</b>.<br>
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Specifically, I will discuss these five things you should keep in mind for self improvement and growth to also spread to your partner and your romantic relationship:<br>
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<i>1. Learn from your partner</i><br>
<i>2. Recognize her/his strengths</i><br>
<i>3. Recognize her/his point of view</i><br>
<i>4. Be interested in the most important people in the life of your partner</i><br>
<i>5. Create opportunities for fun.</i><br>
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For now, I will address these issues in a very general and schematic way, but I will dedicate future occasions to go deeper into each of these aspects, especially those ones perceived as more fundamental and/or complex. Your comments will enable me to identify the points that you consider the most important (and perhaps the most difficult) in relationships.<br>
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Are you in a good relationship? - Part 1

In a previous publication I mentioned how important it was to use persuasion in our relationships. This time I will provide other tools that will allow you to develop more fulfilling relationships. S…

What can really motivate you to exercise? Find out with this quiz

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One of the first things that should be clear in your mind about exercising is why you want to do it. So I need to ask yourself exactly what you want to achieve with exercise. If you think you do not want to achieve anything in particular, I would like you to begin to wonder why you think it would be good to exercise. For now, focus on the benefits (later we will discuss the costs of exercise and why it's worth the effort).<br>
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With some psychological literature, I have designed the following questionnaire for you to begin to identify the reasons why you like -or would like- to exercise. This will help you to know which things can motivate you more when you do not feel like exercising.<br>
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Below are a number of reasons and beliefs that most people have about physical activity in all its forms (like leisure, like exercise, like sport). Read each statement carefully and answer in what extent each motive or attitude is true -or would be true if you were to practice exercise- specifically for you. Please note that there are no right or wrong answers. <br>
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Answer as honestly as possible and make sure you have available at least ten minutes to think every answer calmly.<br>
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What can really motivate you to exercise? Find out with this quiz

One of the first things that should be clear in your mind about exercising is why you want to do it. So I need to ask yourself exactly what you want to achieve with exercise. If you think you do not …

The best 5 tricks to improve your vocabulary

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<div style="text-align: right;"><blockquote>One forgets words as one forgets names. <br />
One's vocabulary needs constant fertilizing <br />
or it will die.<br />
<b>Evelyn Waugh</b><br />
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Loving your language <br />
means a command of its vocabulary <br />
beyond the level of the everyday.<br />
<b>John McWhorter</b><br />
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The most important thing <br />
is to read as much as you can, <br />
like I did. <br />
It will give you an understanding <br />
of what makes good writing <br />
and it will enlarge your vocabulary.<br />
<b>J. K. Rowling</b></blockquote></div><br />
<div style="text-align: justify;">Having a large vocabulary will always be useful in the different dimensions of our lives, especially those having to do with our profession or studies. The amount of knowledge you can acquire (and the speed at which you acquire this knowledge) increases when you are able to understand and use new words in both your native language and in other languages.<br />
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If you need to write and read or if you need to constantly acquire new information (eg, in your university studies) certainly, having a large vocabulary will be very beneficial. In one sentence, you'll do it faster and you'll do it better.<br />
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In this post I want to compile a series of recommendations that can be useful for you to improve your vocabulary, even if you are learning another language. I will be adding new strategies as I find them. If you know any that is not included, I will be happy to read your comment.<br />
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<h2><b>1. Read a lot</b></h2><br />
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This is the most popular recommendation. But usually no one tell us what to read and how. So let me clarify some points:<br />
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<h3>Read about various topics</h3><br />
Usually people do not consider this point and just read about the things they like. Although you can learn a little, your vocabulary will be quite restricted. Over time, your vocabulary will indeed, increase, but in a small proportion.<br />
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Diversify your reading, read on all subjects, both those that are more common for you and those that do not. Read fun facts, scientific or technological advances, celebrity news, etc.<br />
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If you've always wanted to learn about something really interesting, but you never did it, this is your chance, think of the new words that you can use when you speak or write.<br />
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<h3>Read different genres and different types of texts</h3><br />
Read academic texts, read blogs and literature. These types as different text will help you learn different styles and will teach you varied words. <br />
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Again, do not limit yourself to one type of text.<br />
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However, if you don't have much time, reading poetry is the most effective method. Poets strive to use different, striking and sonorous words, and in my experience as a reader, I have not found greater diversity of words in any other texts.<br />
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<h3>Do not try to guess words from their context</h3><br />
This is a bad strategy for at least two reasons:<br />
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First, some words can mean different things in different contexts. In other words, most words have a unique context. For example, the term "yield" can be used as verb or noun. As a verb, it means to give, but also means producing (two whole different things).<br />
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Second, the words you guess contextually do not stay on your head. You never learn them. You will never use them because you do not know what they mean, the only thing you do with this strategy is to get rid of the dictionary. You'll temporary understand what you read or hear, but nothing more.<br />
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<h2><b>2. Learn words by categories and groupings</b></h2><br />
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Do not try to learn words at random. Try to organize and connect them together, this will help you memorize faster and better.<br />
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Think about the words you learn as part of a group.<br />
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<h3>Learn words by contexts and common places</h3><br />
For example, learn the words that have to do with the country, the fullness and joy of spring: romp, frond, bucolic, bud, zephyr, fertile, glare, flock, chrysalis, orchard, primrose, alleluia, etc.<br />
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Since we just passed January, we can think of words about the start or beginning of things and events as: novice, preliminary, genesis, prelude, firstborn, premise, preface, threshold, neophyte, initiate, novel, scoop, pristine, cosmogony, premature, newborn, lintel, etc.<br />
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How many words of the above groups you can recognize? How many you can define?<br />
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<h3>Group them by themes</h3><br />
By areas of study such as psychology, literature, engineering, etc.<br />
Interests, sports, nutrition, technology, etc.<br />
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<h3>Group them by synonyms and antonyms</h3><br />
Do not settle for the words you already know, try to think in similar ways of saying the same thing. If you always say everything is great, try to use other words like fantastic, fabulous, spectacular, wonderful, awesome, amazing, wonderful, etc. <br />
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If you always tell your best friend that he/she is a fool, also you can say slow, idiot, dumb, stupid, moron, goofy, poult, bland, blockhead, dunce, etc. Hey, I'm not encouraging you to treat people badly, but at least you can diversify how you say things.<br />
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The idea is to think about common words and try to translate them to synonyms not so common.<br />
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<h2><b>3. Use notepads and sticky notes</b></h2><br />
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Carry a small notebook and write down the new words you learn. Write not only its meaning. Make sentences with them.<br />
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Use sticky notes with the same purpose.<br />
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It is important that you put in use these new words, and you must do it frequently. Try to use new words at least three times a day. Your vocabulary has to be active and not merely passive. The passive vocabulary are those words that you understand but do not use. The active vocabulary are those words that you can use when you want, because it's already in your head, stored, categorized, defined and ready for you to use in the appropiate.<br />
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Do not settle to the understanding alone. Use the new words you learn everyday. You don't have to feel shame or embarrassment. If your listeners do not understand, define the word and make it possible for them to use the new words they learn from you.<br />
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Another alternative is to use a calendar of words. A calendar of words is a calendar that gives you a new word every day of the year. Earlier in the day, you focus on the word and try to use it as many times as you can in that day.<br />
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<h2><b>4. Practice (by writing and playing)</b></h2><br />
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Write often. Write messages birthdays and other celebrations in a more elaborate way. Write stories. Write some poems. Try to write a novel.<br />
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Write your opinion about a specific topic. Create a blog, for example. Always try to use precise words for the exact things you want to communicate.<br />
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Play with puzzles and word games. Crosswords often bring unfamiliar words, as their creators need to include atypical words to fit with the rest of the words. Play Scrabble, Boggle, Cranium and any similar games.<br />
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<h2><b>5. Learn suffixes and prefixes</b></h2><br />
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This is the best recommendation EVER!. Many words are composed of roots and endings that give meaning to the rest of the sentence. For example, if you have gastritis, the ending "itis" means an inflammation. The termination ITIS will always mean the same.<br />
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The most useful suffixes for me are the greek ones; but I think that prefixes are more important.<br />
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<h2>6. Learn Latin and Greek (optional)</h2><br />
Vulgar Latin led to many existing languages currently known as Romance languages. If you learn Latin, you will understand the roots of many languages -such as Spanish, French and Italian- and it will be much easier to learn new words.</div><br />
<b>You can find the spanish version of this article at: <a href="http://tucambioesahora.blogspot.com/2014/01/5-consejos-para-aumentar-tu-vocabulario.html">5 consejos para aumentar tu vocabulario</a></b><br />
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The best 5 tricks to improve your vocabulary

One forgets words as one forgets names. One's vocabulary needs constant fertilizing or it will die. Evelyn Waugh Loving your language means a command of its vocabulary beyond the level of the eve…

What is persuasion and what it can do for your life?

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<i>"Persuasion is often more effectual than force."</i></div>
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<u>Aesop</u></div>
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<i>"The triumph of persuasion over force </i></div>
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<i>is the sign of a civilized society."</i></div>
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<u>Mark Skousen</u></div>
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<i>"Thaw with her gentle persuasion is more powerful </i></div>
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<i>than Thor with his hammer. </i></div>
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<i>The one melts, </i></div>
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<i>the other breaks into pieces."</i></div>
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<u>Henry David Thoreau</u></div>
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<i>"I think the power of persuasion </i></div>
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<i>would be the greatest superpower of all time".</i></div>
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<u>Jenny Mollen</u></div>
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Our enthusiasm, effort and knowledge have to always be focused on establishing quality relationships with others. After all, people are our priority in life. Our entire life, welfare and success depend on others. For this reason, you should spend much of your time and resources on learning skills that can substantially improve your social relationships.<br>
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<i>You should learn how to persuade others.</i><br>
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Persuasion is a skill that we must cultivate because <b>it gives us the ability to influence others in a lasting way</b>. Therefore, I want to devote a good part of this blog to talk about persuasion. I will connect you to the best online resources and I will also use my formation as a psychologist and my working experience as a clinical psychologist to help you learn how to persuade people.<br>
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If you learn and apply the tools I'll give you in this series, you will improve your professional, academic, social, emotional and personal life. I assure you.<br>
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What is persuasion and what it can do for your life?

"Persuasion is often more effectual than force." Aesop "The triumph of persuasion over force is the sign of a civilized society." Mark Skousen "Thaw with her gentle persuasion is more powerful than…